Polygami

It's a very famous topic discussed in Indonesia recently.
I still remember the owner of Wong Solo Chicken Restaurant,
he is absolutely reach, not too bad and healthy. He has (I guess) 7 or 9 wifes.
Amazing how he's proud of himself doing polygami since he has been doing for many years and everything is under control.
The oldest wife said OK, when he wanted to marry the second one and so on ... until he has maaaaaaany wifes and kids.
Wait a minute!
That's his right to do so when all wifes agree and the religion allows this matter with some reason covered as it written. My wish that this will not be a bullet to shoot the same believers.
He share 7 days for each wife each room. Seemingly, pretty tiring.
He share his treasure for each wife. Looks like, he has neverending budget.
He also loves all kids. Means he has a long root later on and must be a patient daddy.
But do you know exactly what those wifes and kids wish deep in their heart?
Do they except it?

Another story again crushed my beloved country.
The most favorite Religious man, Aa" Gymnastiar married again!
Then all his fans and fanatic listeners to him complaint, "NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!"
Before, he amazed everyone how he loved tenderly only his wife who gives him 7 kids.
Before, he said the second woman he married before she was only his partner at organization.
Before, he had an idea to be the match maker for her.
Before, no body thought he'll matched himself for her.
Even if he said Teh Nini, the first wife is fine with this and can take it (but why her face is not so sparkling like it used to be?),
Why she doesn't be friendly to the younger one in front of the public?
He opens his hair without the belt andddd ... look younger butttt the first wife looks older than before. God! Many other cases are running around.
I said ... hey ... hey ... what's going on?

In one yahoogroup I read, how some men defence that this Polygami system save many women who want to marry but can not find any partner as there is no balance number between men and women in this universe.
Hey, don't worry. Married in some countries is not so complicated anymore, that man should marry only woman and vice versa. Take a look at Philippines and Germany (also other countries) where lesbian and homo can marry with and when they wish to have kids, just do adption and finish!
Moreover, they defence that this also avoid any violence to women who have love affair with married man and only be an object of sexual behavior.
Some people said OK, while the reason is to save widow from a bad name.
Ya ya ... men, they have more testosteron than women, to build desire and have sex. Sometimes, they can not handle it and do mistake.

Some activists from NGOs warn people who will choose this way, "Think twice!", since many men who have wifes could not be fair the the oldest or older wife.

If you asked me ...
I will say "NO" to my husband.
If he insisted,
I will say, "Good bye and take care yourself and kids with me!"
Because sharing my husband with other women is totally not fair for me whatever the reason and however it is.
Because it's scarry to know I only love him but he loves me and other woman. Where's the respect?
Human being has limit.
Don't cross it or disaster comes.

Guys, Polyandri=woman who married to amore than one man is akso such a way that I disagree but ofcourse if this is a choise from a person who knows the risk and right ...
I put my hands up.

I think many people also agree to have a wonderful and harmonic family with only one soulmate and have kids until the old time closing the book of life.
No worry, no curiosity, no jealousy, no bad temper ...
Because everybody knows what should be and what should not be ...
Then sex or they prefer to call it make love, is more to be the spices and arts of life.
Go and get take and give then get a piece cake of peace!